Of Being a Perfectionist & an All-rounder... At the Same Time

There is a saying which goes, "In life, it would benefit one to learn something about everything, and everything about something". Ever since my secondary school years, I've aspired to strive for excellence in all and every aspect of my life. Even now, many close family members and friends would agree that my personality encompasses two very prominent traits... The perfectionist and the all-rounder. Don't get me wrong, or pass this off as simple naivety. I know I am not perfect, nor will I ever be. Still, I wanted to be good in everything I came across. No, allow me to correct myself. I wanted to be the BEST in everything I did. I wanted to be better than anyone else academically. I wanted to work hard to acquire that buff physique that most jocks possess that I could be proud of. I wanted to be good in every sport I could lay my hands on. I wanted to be well-liked and popular. I knew for a fact that all my needs (NOT wants) were met because my family was a pretty well-to-do one financially. I wanted to be 'invincible' emotionally; to never let the small things in life bug me, or allow other people to put me down. I wanted to learn and, if possible, master the piano, guitar and drums. And last but not least, I wanted to be rooted in the Word of God so I could live out my life for Him and that others would see His influence on my life.

Perhaps it was the 'kiasu' mentality that had stuck to my psyche ever since I picked up and read those Singapore-syllabus-based Science and Mathematics textbooks back in primary school. Or maybe it was the continuous motivation from my parents that kept ringing in my head telling me to do my best during ongoing tests and exams; and that healthy competition among my peers was a good thing. At the same time, it reminded me of a truth that many parents neglect to tell their children... the simple reminder that both my parents believed in me and wanted to see me excel, but more importantly, that they loved me all the same no matter what the outcome was. My parents never had to nag me to study, because I would be self-motivated to do the things that needed doing. Whatever it was, I could never remember a time when I actually suffered academically, or failed any paper in a major exam. Just recently, I was reminded of how blessed I am for having such loving and caring parents. After hearing descriptions of the tense family situations that some of my close friends face at home, I can truly say that I am grateful and thankful to the Lord for giving me such wonderful parents.

Thank you Mum & Dad!

For always being there for me...
For loving and caring for me so wholeheartedly...
For guiding and showing me the difference between right and wrong...
For being patient with me...
For giving me advice when I needed it...
For rebuking me when I did something wrong or unacceptable...
For punishing me so I would not repeat the same mistakes...
For teaching me humility and selflessness... and most importantly,
For believing in me!

I love you both very much!

Of course, I would not have done it or made it this far if it were not for the grace of God in my life. For that, I am eternally thankful to my personal Lord & Saviour, Jesus Christ, who has given me a purpose, a hope, and a destiny. All glory be to our Lord God Almighty!

Forgive me for digressing. As mentioned above, I am very much, or at least try to be, both a perfectionist and an all-rounder at the same time. However recently, I've been pondering. Is it possible to be both a perfectionist and an all-rounder in the vast field of medicine? Maybe I can't be both at the same time. Maybe what I need is a paradigm shift of some sort. At this point, it is probably wise to give you an example by relating this to the medical field so you can see where I am coming from and gain a better understanding of the point I'm trying to make here. In almost all cases, a doctor who is a specialist is said to have perfected everything there is to know in his or her chosen field of specialty. Naturally over long periods of time, specialists would be less competent in other fields, and in some cases, if uninformed or unaware, know nothing about some very new sub-specialties. How then can this doctor be an all-rounder? Likewise on the contrary, a General Practitioner (or GP) is someone who professes to be good at, or know a lot about, medicine as a whole. Is it humanly possible, for a GP to be perfect in his or her knowledge about everything?

Do you see my dilemma? Do you NOW see why there is a problem here? In the future as I advance in my career, do I have to select between being either a perfectionist or an all-rounder, or can I have the luxury of being both?

Anyway, those are just my thoughts. Whatever the case, I am still learning, as always. =)

Soli Deo Gloria.

~Tim~

Spiritual Discernment and Decision Making

One day a young fugitive, trying to hide himself from the enemy, entered a small village. The people were kind to him and offered him a place to stay. But when the soldiers who sought the fugitive asked where he was hiding, everyone became very fearful. The soldiers threatened to burn the village and kill every person in it unless the young man was handed to them before dawn. The people went to the Pastor and asked him what to do. Torn between handing over the boy to the enemy and having his people killed, the Pastor withdrew to his room and read his Bible, hoping to find an answer before dawn. In the early morning, his eyes fell on these words, “It is better that one man dies than that the whole people be lost.”

Then the Pastor closed the Bible, called the soldiers, and told them where the boy was hidden. And after the soldiers took the fugitive away to be killed, there was a feast in the village because the Pastor has saved the lives of the people. But the Pastor did not celebrate. Overcome with a deep sadness, he remained in his room. That night an angel came to him and asked, “What have you done?” He said: “I handed over the fugitive to the enemy.” Then the angel said: “But don’t you know that you have handed over the Messiah?” “How could I know?” the Pastor replied anxiously. Then the angel said; “If, instead of reading your Bible, you had visited this young man just once and looked into his eyes, you would have known.”

What would you have done if you were this Pastor? Would you consider it justifiable that one man should be sacrificed for the lives of the whole village? Would you have felt that you have obeyed God by letting the Bible speak to you this way? Our first impression is that the Pastor did right. Is he not considerate of his village? Did he not seek the will of God through his Word? Is it not better that one should die so that others may live; especially if the one who is to die is a stranger? In fact he should be commended for his wisdom and piety.

However the angel was not happy. The fugitive is the long awaited Messiah. The Pastor asked a question which millions of people before him have asked since they nailed the Prince of Peace onto a wooden cross to die, “How could I know?” Would it have made a difference if he has known earlier? Of course it would. He would have been willing sacrifice himself and his village for the Messiah... or would he?

I believe that the Pastor had already made up his mind to save himself and his village even before his deliberation. He had already decided that the fugitive, this outsider, should be sacrificed for the greater good. His deliberation was just to find reasons to justify his actions. He agonised in prayer and in his meditation throughout the night, but just could not find the peace, until a random passage in the Bible confirmed what he had already decided. That would have explained why he did not go to meet the fugitive. It was a small village. Could it be that he was unable to meet the person he had already condemned? On hearing about the arrival of this fugitive, he would had already resolved to give up to the soldiers whom he knew were on the heels of this fugitive.

The Pastor’s greatest weakness is his failure to see that all men reflect the face of God and are all of equal value. If he did, he would no more be willing to give up the fugitive to the enemy as he would give up any of his villagers. His second failure was to make up his mind first and then seek God’s counsel.

I wonder how often in our lives have we decided upon a course of action first, and then ask God to justify our actions? Having made up our mind, we would spend days, months and years in a struggle with God, and our conscience looking for confirmation and justification. We would interpret all circumstances and events to support our decision. We accept only the counsel of people who say what we want to hear. And we pick from the Bible passages that agree with our assessment while rejecting the rest. We suppress the quiet voice of the Holy Spirit and our conscience, resisting the sense of unease, and sometimes attributing it to spiritual warfare. We believe that the strong impression that we sense in our heart are a confirmation from the Lord, not suspecting that our hearts are capable of great self-deception. Then we proceed with the course of action, convincing others that it is God’s will or even worst that we speak for God. The result of this is often catastrophic. People are hurt, ministries disrupted, and our souls are severe injured. What is not of God will not endure.

So when we want to discern the will of God, let us be honest. Let us truly seek his wisdom and counsel and be open to listen and accept his guidance. We need to move into a place of solitude as Jesus did in the garden of Gethsemane to listen. There is the need to fast and pray; disciplining our bodies so that we can be open to God. We need to adopt the attitude of listening to the whole counsel of God from the Bible, not just selected verses. Listening also involves hearing the voice of the Holy Spirit speaking into our lives and by the Spirit through the mind of God, understand the circumstances and events in our lives. Spiritual decision making is not testing God as Gideon did with his fleeces. Last but not least, let us listen to the discernment and thoughts of our fellow Christians in our community. We share the same baptism and the same Spirit. If the Spirit has spoken to us, then he would have spoken to others too. If the other members of our community of faith do not agree with our plan of action, it would be wise to stop and take stock.

There is a great need for Christians to learn spiritual discernment. For too long, we have leaned unto our own understanding, using our minds to make decisions, and to discern a course of action. We must avoid what the Pastor has discovered. What seems right in our own eyes may not be right at all. We all need spiritual sight in our discernment. Let us beware that we do not unintentionally crucify Jesus again.

~Tim~

The Rainbow

He looked at the rainbow, knowing full well that its beauty surpassed that of everything else in nature. Its majestic presence, a rare sight after the heavy rain, that presented itself only to those who were looking for it, to those who knew where to look, and to those who knew that once they found it, it would certainly change their lives forever.

For him, it was not something that he fell in love with at first sight. He had seen many “others” like it, but this one, this one had a natural, surreal beauty of its own. This rainbow was special, he saw an “inner core” of beauty, candour, and elegance that he had never seen before in any other. This rainbow had a radiance that brought glimmers and rays of hope to all who were fortunate enough to be graced by its presence. He understood that it signified something peaceful, something optimistic that blessed his soul and spirit, even after having endured and experienced a tumultuous thunderstorm of sorts. Surprisingly, as it were with this rainbow, he could not help but notice that its purple arc was more pronounced than that of the other colours.

Deep down, he knew what he wanted… this rainbow. In his mind, he could recall a famous belief that stated that there is a pot of gold at the end of every rainbow. But to him, this particular rainbow was worth more to him than all the riches of this world, more valuable than anything the world had to offer.

Unfortunately, he knew that it was inevitable. It was of no use going against the laws of nature. He knew that although the rainbow was strong-willed and free-spirited inside, it would not be enough to face the forces of nature. Being an abstract phenomenon in the world of physics, it was only logical that the rainbow would eventually disappear under normal circumstances. It would vanish into thin air, the same rainbow never to be seen or heard of again.

Still, he wanted to make a difference, to BE the difference.

If he were granted one wish somehow, it would be so that the rainbow before him would never fade away. It would truly take a miracle to stop that from ever happening. Some would call it faith. He bowed his head in humility to pray. He adored this rainbow, but he knew he had to let it go… only because he had to go first.

The Importance of Promises

Life is just so unpredictable sometimes. At one point, you may be feeling on top of the world. Another, it just seems like everything you’ve worked for, everything you dreamed of, everything you desire… just crumbles and falls apart right in front of you.

You build your world around your family and friends. After all, in the debate between nature versus nurture, it is ironic that both entities play very crucial roles in shaping one’s values, ideals, beliefs, principles, behaviour and attitude.

Human beings are social creatures. Whatever you want to call it: socializing, fraternizing, gossiping, chatting, hooking up, etc… it is undeniably true that communication plays a vital role in establishing a “connection” between 2 or more people. Consequently over time, you place your trust and confide in the people who are close to you… you make promises, you tell secrets, you are acclimatised to their company, etc. By doing this, you are hoping that the bond and the confidentiality clause, that is usually the essence of any friendship or relationship between two individuals, would be sufficient enough for both parties to not breach the trust of the other person. You are hoping the other individual will not let you down and be there for you through thick and thin.

However, the paradigm shifts when the friendship or relationship is put to the test. Every one of them has a limit, what one would call a “breaking point”. Fragile ones are the first to succumb, followed by the more stable, definitive ones. Even the strongest friendships or relationships will fall when the basic instinct of survival comes into play. In the end, it is the selfish nature of mankind, a fallen race, that will ultimately lead us all to our own destruction.

Yet, somewhere people still make and keep promises. They choose not to quit when the going gets rough because they promised once to see it through. They stick to lost causes. They hold on to a love grown cold. They stay with people who have become pains in the neck. They still dare to make promises and care enough to keep the promises they make.

I want to say to you that if you have a ship you will not desert, if you have people you will not forsake, if you have causes you will not abandon, then you are like God.

The commitment to keep promises protects families and friendships. Taking promises too casually creates disillusionment and fear. Honouring promises made to another will honour oneself too.

I want the people in my life to know that I will keep my promises as much as I can with the strength imbued in me by the power of the Holy Spirit. I expect them to do the same too, even though sometimes we may fail. =) God bless us all as we pray and seek His will on this issue together!

~Tim~

The Socrates Test

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom. One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Test of Three."

"Test of Three?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to test what you're going to say. The first test is Truth.
Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about It."
"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.

Now let's try the second test, the test of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..." "So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him even though you're not certain it's true?" The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued. "You may still pass though, because there is a third test - the filter of Usefulness.
Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"
"No, not really."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?" The man was defeated and ashamed.

This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.

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Sometimes, we tend to hear things about other people from others, but that is exactly why we need to know which voice to listen to: the Good, the Bad, or the Ugly. There will be times when even the closest people to us will tend to hurt us, whether intentionally or unintentionally, but if the relationship/friendship has been built on strong, unshakable trust, then it is definitely worth saving! Unless proven otherwise, give each one a chance to voice his or her opinions before passing judgment. Everyone deserves a second chance at something, and this can be seen more clearly by Christ's obedient act more than 2000 years ago.We did not deserve Jesus' sacrifice on the Cross, but it is by Grace we have been saved! We have inevitably been given... a second chance... our God is the God of Second Chances!

Jesus, help me to make the right decisions in life, especially when it involves the many people I cherish and love. Help me to open up my ears to what is true, to what is good, and to what is useful, both for myself and for Your kingdom. Help me to seek Your will in everything I do and glorify Your name!

~Tim~

FEATURE: Awesome Sketches!

If you guys/galz think you can sketch or draw, check these sketches out! They will mesmerize you!

I'd juz like to say this to a certain, special someone, you know who you are... This post is dedicated especially to you, to make you smile even in this time of frustration! You're NOT stupid! You juz need more time to consolidate the facts in your syllabus, and in time, you will get it, I really believe that! You're stronger and smarter than you think dear!

I believe in you! I trust you the same way that you've always trusted me! Been praying for you a lot, and for a lot of things concerning you. Thanx for opening up to me, dear! Thanx for always being there for me at the right time! Thanx for being my angel and calling me yours too! *hugs*

~Tim~

The Trinity: The Only 3-in-1 You'll Ever Need!

The Christian doctrine of the Trinity teaches the unity of Father, Son & Holy Spirit as 3 persons in 1 Godhead. Each of the persons is understood as having one identical essence or nature. not merely similar natures. The members of the Trinity are said to be co-equal and co-eternal, one in essence, nature, power, action, and will. All three are eternal with no beginning. It is one of the hardest concepts to grasp in Christianity... even for seasoned scholars of Christian theology.

If you're looking for a complete and thorough understanding of the Trinity, look elsewhere! This post isn't meant to cover it in detail, but merely to reiterate the fact that it does exist, or in this case, co-exist. However, I was rambling around with my personal Christian Database of Information (CDI)... and I came across this interesting conversation involving the 3 persons of the Trinity and the angels in heaven. Juz thought I'd wanna share it with you.. since it's simple to understand and defines the individual roles of each of the persons in the Trinity. So enjoy!

God: Angels, do you know what I was just thinking about?

Angels: Of course not! What were you thinking about, Sir?

God: Christians seem to have forgotten what kind of power they have available and the Devil keeps on deceiving them!

Angels: Sir, what exactly are you getting at?

God: I have made My children in such a way that when the world is sitting, they would be standing... When the world is standing, they would stand out... When the world stands out, My children must be outstanding... And when the devil dares the world to be outstanding, My people will be the standards to be used!

Jesus: They (Christians) are also forgetting the words in Ephesians 1:3

God: Please read it out!

Angels: Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly places with every spiritual blessing in Christ! So what do we do now since the end is almost near?

Holy Spirit: My presence is still among men and I will teach and remind the Christians of all that we have discussed.

Jesus: I will also continue interceding for them and stand in for them even in their weaknesses.

God: I will make sure that I give to all those who ask of Me, seek Me, and try to find Me. The blessings I have promised them through My Son, Jesus Christ will be delivered to all those who discover that I, Jehovah, am ready to bless them! Not because of any special things that they have done, but just because I love them!

Jesus: I will also give all My followers who are willing to carry out My will, the strength to carry on!

Angels: We are all backing the Trinity, and even the devil cannot stop us!

Blessings,

~Tim~